Another book that can be read more than once.
To Live,To Love, To learn, To Leave a Legacy
Saw the movie mogamul . Sure it is slow moving , but makes you think at every twist and turn. The song ‘sollayo vai thiranthu just about sums up the main theme . Archana Joglekar looks beautiful and the mother daughter duo live their roles as tamil-thanjavoor marathi caught in a cleft. … Continue reading “Moga Mul (மோக முள் )”
Another book that can be read more than once.
‘Magnificent Mary’ ; Five times world Boxing Champion is hardly known in her country. Can it happen in any other country ? I heard of her only during the Summer Olympics in London, long after she became a world Champion while I can easily the number of runs Srikant scored in the 1983 World Cup. … Continue reading “Magnificent Mary”
Boxing probably is the most demanding sport. Any shortcoming in training or technique is severely punished, physically and emotionally right in the ring.
Mary Kom is in the wrong country, wrong sport, wrong gender, wrong Region and Wrong social class , to achieve any feat; well that is what is ‘Against all odds….” . I salute !
A book by an adman, alumnus of IIT and IIM; one more IIT guy excelling in fields other than engineering. It is not about how God influences your life , but about how the idea of God affects business in India. Written in a lively , chatty, yet informative style, as a … Continue reading “For God’s Sake”
My career , which was always on a ‘ conveyer belt’ gave very little room for any deliberate decisions ; from sainik school to NDA to army . One of the rare occasions when I was really required to make a choice was to choose between tech and non tech. The first time … Continue reading “A Reluctant Techie”
My career , which was always on a ‘ conveyer belt’ gave very little room for any deliberate decisions ; from sainik school to NDA to army .
It is about a Regimental Reunion or a Paltan reunion and I shall restrict myself to my thoughts rather than people and events. I had left the unit in Mar 1997, and it was after a long gap of 16 years, that I found myself back with the family. Unlike a School or College, there are no … Continue reading “Regimental Reunion”
In a strictly hierarchical system, comfort is, knowing where exactly one fits in. A man in uniform is quite uncomfortable in a flattish organisation, where people don’t give or take orders unquestioningly. That is why, when the stars and stripes on the shoulders look similar, people discretely look for the service number or date of commission to ascertain the correct pecking … Continue reading “A Fauji and his Rank”
In a strictly hierarchical system, comfort is, knowing where exactly one fits in. A man in uniform is quite uncomfortable in a flattish organisation, where people don’t give or take orders unquestioningly. That is why, when the stars and stripes on the shoulders look similar, people discretely look for the service number or date of commission to ascertain the correct pecking order.(chapati seniority as they say in army) . Literally you can’t even move a step forward , as you wouldn’t know whether to walk to the left or right of a person if you don’t know the inter se seniority.! A senior always walks to the right of his junior. (may be that is why a south indian bride stands on the right, while in the West, the bride stands on the left !)
continued from ……….. lean in What struck me in the book was the frequent references to India and a number of anecdotes where Indian names figure. (some of the names, originated in India and corrupted in America ). Foreword is by Naina lal Kidwai. Wherever statistics are quoted, besides US, the only other country considered … Continue reading “leaning in – The Indian Scene”
That brings me to a gem of a theory from SS, though it is not directly linked to lean in.
It means Nature intended us to be fat and we fight Nature to be fit. How preposterous !
So how will lean in affect the Indian work-space and Indian homes?
I’ll try not to be judgmental, but make an attempt to foresee the trend. More and more women will strive for a career and compete to reach top posts. They will fight at home if need be, to preserve their career prospects. Young girls may delay marriage or altogether avoid marriage. Once married , they would delay child berth or avoid child birth if not assured of help from organization and husband in child care. I am not sure if Indians will as readily as Americans resort to reformatting and reconfiguration of career or marriage , if bugs persist. So wherever things don’t work out, struggle will be long and bitter. Of course men will change, for peace at home or simple economy, if not due to change of heart.
In traditional male bastions like defence forces, induction of women will increase, but for whatever reason the ladies will take a lion’s share of the desk jobs which normally is occupied by war wounded soldiers or soldiers returning from exceptionally difficult assignments.
The X factor
The X factor in India is affordable domestic help and help from grand parents. The leaning in couple will make most of this factor to ‘lean on’ any such available help.
Sunday times will continue to be popular for matrimonial advertisements. Bharat matrimony will continue to be the first web page viewed, for many parents, irrespective of whether their children or leaning in or not. Big fat Indian weddings will continue to be funded by parents and brothers and rarely by sisters. Sons are likely to remain ‘number one , in-demand offspring’ when it comes to looking after parents or dependent siblings.
Another term that I learnt from SS.
…He cooks and cleans more, knows the details of the schedule, and is happy to be the ‘ number one, in-demand parent’ for half the week….
The last blog post I did on the subject was ‘When work doesn’t work any more ‘ . WOMEN, WORK AND IDENTITY and Sheryl Sandberg’s ‘Lean In ‘ bears a similar subtitle with a major shift in goal., WOMEN, WORK AND THE WILL TO LEAD. ‘Lean in ‘; What does it mean ? Is it … Continue reading “lean in”
There is an anecdote on how to test a date. After finding the right guy, then you train him, to suit your requirement, …..Even after finding the right guy—or gal—no one comes fully formed. ………If you want a fifty-fifty partnership, establish that pattern at the outset. (What kind of user manual is this ? Why stop at 50-50 and not go for a guy who would do 80 or 100 % of the work at home ? What if you want a 25-75 partnership or 75-25 partnership,or may be 25-75 in one aspect and 20-80 in another aspect, and different ratios at different stage of life ?)
I was casually asking a JCO from my regiment about his post retirement plans (for non-army types, a Junior Commisioned Officer is only junior in rank but very senior in age and service.) His answer was simple, ‘ kya karna hai saab, kaafi naukri kar lia, abhi ghar rahenge, makaan hai, khet hai.’ I knew … Continue reading “Sarvam annamayam : Food for Thought”
Empowerment of Women : Army Style She gets the first taste of empowerment when her husband gets to command a battalion , she is further empowered when he commands a brigade and is fully empowered when he becomes a general officer. ……and when he retires , there is the inevitable, … Continue reading “Empowerment of Women : Army Style”
Empowerment of Women : Army Style
She gets the first taste of empowerment when her husband gets to command a battalion , she is further empowered when he commands a brigade and is fully empowered when he becomes a general officer.
……and when he retires , there is the inevitable, sudden power shut down…